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I have a confession to make…. when I became a mom after 8+ years of infertility, I was not prepared for how hard the change would be for me. I remember the first day my husband went back to work, I spent the entire day on the couch, in tears. I had no adult conversation, I was spending my entire day feeding, changing diapers, and caring for this baby. I wasn’t seeing the outside world. It was a hard change.
Fast forward to now, the Goof is five years old, and I have six month old twins. At church, I took the Goof to the bathroom and had a twin in my arms. When I went into the bathroom, I ran into me…five years earlier. There in the bathroom, flustered, in tears, and shaking because she was so unsure of herself, was a brand new mom. Worried because her baby was spitting up after feedings. We talked, I gave her my bits of advice, and hopefully, I helped her feel a bit better about the fact that she was doing a good job and that this adjustment is hard.
After that meeting, I thought about how different this transition was with the twins. I will be honest, I was petrified that after I had the twins, I would feel the same way I did after having the Goof. But, guess what, I didn’t. Why? Because I remembered what made me feel better and what worked to make both the Goof and I happy, and I started doing it right away with the twins.
Every mother will find at times that she is overwhelmed, stressed, and tired. However, there is so much you can do to help make that time minimal. Each mom has her own formula for happiness. Thankfully, I had already found mine with the Goof, and was able to use that to find my new formula for happiness with the twins.
One of the biggest things for me was I learned I did so much better if I got myself out of the house. Even if it was just a 15 minute walk. So guess what, ever since the twins were about 6 weeks (they were 6 weeks premature so I waited until they were” full term”) we left the house almost daily. Before that, I would take walks by myself or with the Goof after Mike got home. Getting out of the house, and keeping myself and the family busy was one of my ingredients for a happy family. After all, when mama ain’t happy….. you know the rest.
With twins, I also knew that my happiness would depend on sleep. All of my twin mom friends had told me I would have to let them cry it out. I am not a mom who can let her babies cry it out. Nothing against those that do, it just isn’t for me. So from an early age, I decided to work towards having a routine that would encourage sleeping without crying it out. I wasn’t even trying to get them to sleep through the night, but I wanted them to be able to fall asleep on their own. Thankfully, I had read, researched, and learned a lot about gentle sleep solutions. And guess what? My babies go to sleep with no tears…and at 4 months they started sleeping through the night (10 hours straight!). I know some of that was pure luck, but I really believe a lot of it was also the gentle, no-cry sleep methods we used from the beginning.
As a mom, it is hard to know what methods are out there. Especially when it comes to helping our little ones sleep and helping us get the rest we need. There is no one size fits all. But sometimes it is hard to even know where to start. That is why Gerber® Good Start® Gentle has teamed up with certified sleep consultant Christina Gantcher to provide free sleep consultations. You can take advantage of this service by visiting Gerber.com/experts and scheduling a consultation.
One thing I really like is that Christina emphasizes to “Put feeding first to ensure your child is eating at regular intervals and gaining weight at a healthy pace.” That means you won’t be told to not feed a baby who is hungry. That was one of the things I was worried about when starting to learn about sleep “training.” I have small babies, and as preemies, they needed to eat to gain weight. I didn’t want someone telling me to discourage feedings when they really needed them.
Here is just an example of some of the great sleep tips you might here.
- Begin putting your child down while he/she is sleepy but awake, once or twice a week, so he/she can learn how to put him/herself asleep independently.
- Remember to be patient with yourself and your child. At this young age, babies are extremely malleable and change quickly as they develop. If you’re patient with yourself and your child, you can help your baby learn how to sleep independently.
I realize I was pretty lucky with the twins. The Goof did not sleep through the night until he was 11 months old. And worse than that, he was a pain to get to go to sleep at all. The fact that I did not have to do much to encourage them to sleep well was a true blessing, but I did do some of the things that Christina suggests, and I believe that really helped. It is so much easier for me to be a good mom to all three of my children when I have been able to get a good stretch of sleep and do not have to fight to get the twins down at night.
If you would like to speak with Christina, or any of the Gerber® Good Start® experts, you can set up a consultation by visiting Gerber.com/experts
Gerber® Good Start® Gentle invites all moms (and dads) to take advantage of this complimentary service in order to help you find your own formula for happiness.
*This was a sponsored post through Mom Select with Gerber® Good Start® Gentle. All opinions are 100% my own.*